Is AI about to make its way down the aisle? A new survey from Luxury jeweller Queensmith reveals that over half of UK couples (55%) now use AI tools to help them write their vows and speeches. These findings are based on responses from engaged and newlywed couples who confessed they used the likes of ChatGPT to help craft their words.
Among the biggest revelations:
- 72% said they used AI because they didn’t know where to start with their vows
- 53% used AI for inspiration only
- 31% edited their speeches with AI
- 19% wrote their vows or speeches entirely using AI
So, what’s driving this digital shift? For couples facing the emotional pressure of getting their vows just right, AI is becoming a go-to support, especially for those who find it hard to articulate themselves.
As Laura Suttie, wedding expert at Queensmith, explains:
“We’re seeing a growing trend of couples turning to AI for support with emotional tasks like vow and speech writing. It’s not because they lack sincerity, but because the pressure to deliver a ‘perfect’ moment has never been greater. With so many weddings being filmed, shared or even live-streamed on social media, people feel their words need to live up to the moment which can be daunting. Finding the right words to express how they feel can be harder for some more than others so I can see how AI would be used if speech writing doesn’t come naturally”
7 Ways to Keep Your Vows Genuine
But how can couples use AI without losing the personal touch? Suttie shares her top tips for blending technology and tradition, ensuring vows and speeches still feel authentic and memorable:
1. Start with structure: Give your speech a beginning, middle and end. A clear structure will help keep you focused to then guide the tone of what you want to say.
2. Keep it concise and heartfelt: Aim for around five minutes. A sincere, well-paced speech will always have more impact than one that tries to say too much.
3. Make it inclusive: Keep your speech appropriate for a diverse audience from grandparents to close friends. Avoid in-jokes or overly personal anecdotes that risks isolating listeners.
4. Use AI to inspire, not replace: AI can help get you started if you’re stuck but it shouldn’t write your entire speech. Add your own voice and personal touches as it will mean a lot more to your partner and your audience.
5. Read it out loud: Practise, edit and practise again. Reading your speech out loud can help with pacing, confidence and spotting any weird phrasing.
6. Speak genuinely, not generically: The most memorable speeches are rooted in real stories and authentic emotion. Focus on your connection, not perfection.
7. Get a second opinion: Before the big day, ask someone you trust to listen. A fresh perspective can help ensure your tone is right and your message resonates.
As AI continues to play a bigger role in modern weddings, it’s clear that couples are looking for ways to balance ease with emotion, tradition with technology. The full findings of the report can be viewed here.
